Therapy, Karma….

The Extraction of the Stone of Madness Hieronymus Bosch, 1475–1480

I found these three readers’ questions I answered some time ago about therapy and karma and stuff, they seem relevant today. SW

Q: I’ve been in therapy for several years and sometimes wonder if I’m getting anywhere. How do you know when it’s time to cut your losses and get on with your life, and how do you know when to persevere?

SW: I think therapy is basically a good thing because it allows you to go and talk to a professional about the intimate details of your life. It is part of the process. However, there is a point in therapy where you reach a diminishing return.

In other words, in order to talk about your pain, you have to engage the personality/ego to talk about it. There is nothing that the personality/ego likes better than waffling on about itself and having somebody saying, “There there.”

Quite naturally, a therapist can’t sit there and say to you, “Listen, you’re full of sh..t , you’re an egotistical arrogant bastard, and what you really need to do is cut the crap and get out there, roll up your sleeves and get on with your life.”

That would automatically put the therapist out of a job, but that is actually what a lot of people need to pay good money to hear.

A lot of therapy is so indulgent, and goes on for years because the client needs to have the attention, and the therapist needs to have work.

I think when you feel bored by the therapy, when you feel you’re going back over and over the same stuff, when you see that really there isn’t any more to be got from it, when you see the therapist rubbing their hands that’s the time to cut your losses and get on with your life. I think if someone has been seeing a therapist for more than six months on a weekly basis and still hasn’t figured it out, then it’s time to trash the therapist and get on with life.

Q: I work really hard on staying mentally, emotionally and physically balanced, and keep up various disciplines, yet sometimes I find that imbalance has just crept up on me without warning. Why do these slips occur and how can we prevent them?

SW: The more you raise your energy, the more you work upon yourself to control the mental, emotional, and physical self, the more rarefied your diet, the more rarefied your consciousness, the harder it is to sustain discipline.

If you are finding it really difficult to keep a balance, then an effective technique is to deliberately lower your energy. There are times when the energy gets so intense, it is like a tea cup in an earthquake, it keeps trying to fall off the shelf.

Probably at that point what you really need to do is eat a little crud, drink a little alcohol, give upon the disciplines for a little bit, and slip back to a place where your energy is more easily sustainable.

In the early days I found that as my energy was increasing, and as I was focusing on the power of the Light, the force of the metaphysical and spiritual self, I would get overwhelmed by energy and wouldn’t know what to do with it. A lot of my imbalance was because I was rather spastic in the way that I accommodated energy. We tend to try to take on much more energy than we ever need.

So in answer to your question, sometimes the slips occur through lack of concentration, but more often than not, if you’re on the journey, the slips occur because you have too much energy and things get wobbly and out of control. So the answer to that is pull back.

Man on Ladder in Strange Places

Q: You teach that we choose the circumstances of our life before birth, and go into life with an overall picture of what we’ll be getting ourselves into. When we consciously act to try and change our lives, how do we know we are not thwarting the path we already chose for ourselves for our supposed highest spiritual evolution, and simply succumbing to the demands of the ego?

SW: The teaching that I was exposed to said that you chose your overall evolution, and that you knew the identity of your mother and father, and what you were going to be getting into.

However, that choice of circumstances, that karmic path is only up to the age of thirteen. So if you are consciously trying to change your life, provided you are more than thirteen years old, what you’ve done is changed the karma of where you found yourself, and you’re trying to create the highest energy possible. That cannot possibly be thwarting the path because that fixed path only applies to the initial years. (SW)

Stuie Wilde says in his book Grace, Gaia and the End of Days: “There is a drama to the karma of the charmer you select.”